About
Helping people build better relationships,
using science that actually works.
Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. is a relationship scientist who believes good science should make your life better, not just fill journals.
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A first-generation college student who loved school so much he never left, Gary is now a psychology professor at Monmouth University, a husband, a girl dad, and the Chief Love Scientist at LoveStrategies.com. He helps people apply relationship science to the messy reality of everyday life, turning research into tools that actually work.
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Gary studies romantic relationships, identity, and personal growth, but his real passion is empowerment: helping people spot the blind spots that quietly undermine their relationships, understand themselves more clearly, and make smarter choices in love.
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He’s published over 70 academic articles and books, co-authored multiple textbooks, and been named one of The Princeton Review’s Best 300 Professors, but his specialty is translating decades of research into practical, real-world insight.
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His book Stronger Than You Think: The 10 Blind Spots That Undermine Your Relationship… and How to See Past Them shows how small mindset shifts can lead to meaningful change. Through his TEDx talk (“Break-ups Don’t Have to Leave You Broken”), Psychology Today column, media work, Psychology of Relationships Substack, and the Love Strategies Podcast, his ideas have reached more than 12 million people, proving that science doesn’t have to sound academic to be powerful.
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Gary has been featured in outlets ranging from The New York Times and CNN to Men’s Health and Women’s Health. His goal remains simple: use science to help people build stronger relationships, and stronger versions of themselves.
