Gary w. Lewandowski Jr.

Helping people build better relationships,
using science that actually works.

Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski Jr. has spent 25+ years researching relationships and 4+ years coaching real people through them, and that collision between the lab and real life is exactly what makes his work different.

A psychology professor and award-winning teacher at Monmouth University, Gary believes most people aren't failing at relationships, they're working with the wrong information. Oversimplified advice, hollow life hacks, and pop psychology that distorts the actual science have left people underequipped for the most important area of their lives. His work closes that gap.

As a relationship scientist, Gary studies romantic relationships, identity, and personal growth. He's published over 70 academic articles and books, co-authored multiple textbooks, and been recognized by The Princeton Review as one of the Best 300 Professors in the country, an honor that reflects not just what he knows, but his rare ability to make complexity genuinely useful. That capacity to translate rigorous science into something people can actually do is the through-line of everything he creates.

His book Stronger Than You Think: The 10 Blind Spots That Undermine Your Relationship… and How to See Past Them applies that philosophy directly, showing how small, science-informed mindset shifts lead to meaningful change in the relationships that matter most. His TEDx talk, "Break-ups Don't Have to Leave You Broken," has extended that message further, as have his Psychology Today column, his Psychology of Relationships Substack, and the Love Strategies Podcast. Together, his ideas have reached more than 13 million people, proof that science doesn't have to sound academic to be powerful.

Gary is also the Chief Love Scientist at LoveStrategies.com, where he helps individuals and couples apply relationship science to the messy, nonlinear reality of everyday life. It's the role that completed the picture: after decades of producing the research, he wanted to find out what it looked like when real people tried to live it.

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What he discovered is that the science is far more useful, and far more accessible, than anyone realized. It’s just that most people have simply never had it translated for them properly. That's the gap he's spent the last four years closing.

A first-generation college student who loved school so much he never left, Gary lives in New Jersey with his wife and daughter. He has been featured in The New York Times, CNN, Men's Health, Women's Health, and outlets across the media landscape. His goal remains the same it's always been: use science to help people build stronger relationships, and stronger versions of themselves.