Psychology of Relationships
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Most of what we're taught about love comes from movies, family patterns, and advice from well-meaning people who were also figuring it out as they went.
For a long time, that was the best we had.
It isn't anymore.
We have decades of rigorous research on what actually makes relationships work, on communication, conflict, commitment, compatibility, and connection. The problem isn't that the science doesn't exist. The problem is that almost nobody has translated it into something you can actually use.
That's the gap I've spent 25 years studying and the last four years closing.
This Isn't Therapy. It Isn't Coaching.
It's Something More Useful.
Therapy explores your past. Coaching motivates your future. What I do is different from both.
Consulting is diagnostic and strategic. We look at what's actually happening in your relationship, the patterns, the dynamics, the decisions, through the lens of the research. Not what feels true. Not what sounds reassuring. What the science actually says about your specific situation, and what it says you can do about it.
I bring the same rigor to a consulting engagement that I bring to my research: systematic analysis, honest assessment, and evidence-based strategy. The difference is that the outcome isn't a journal article. It's a clearer picture of your relationship and a concrete path forward.
If you've ever wished someone would just tell you what's actually going on, without judgment, without jargon, and without the runaround, this is what I do.
Who This is For
This is for high-agency people who are done guessing.
You're self-aware and capable. You've probably already tried some version of getting help — a therapist, a book, a podcast, a coach. You may have gotten something useful. But you're still here, which means you haven't gotten what you actually need: a clear, honest, research-grounded analysis of what's happening and what to do about it.
You might be navigating a specific relationship challenge you can't seem to resolve. You might be in a relationship that's functional but not what you want it to be. You might be single and tired of repeating the same patterns with different people. You might just want to build something stronger before problems show up.
What you have in common is this: you want strategy, not sympathy. Evidence, not encouragement. A real answer, not a reframe.
Who This is NOT For
This matters as much as everything above.
If you're in crisis, if there's abuse, acute mental health challenges, or an emergency, please seek a licensed therapist or counselor. That's not a deflection. It's the honest answer about what the right kind of help looks like, and I'd rather tell you that clearly than take your money and underserve you.
If you're looking for someone to validate decisions you've already made, this probably isn't the right fit either. I work from the research, and the research isn't always flattering. What I offer is honest analysis, which is only useful to people who actually want it.
If that's you, keep reading.
Ways to Work Together
Everything below is currently in development. Waitlist members get first access, best pricing, and first consideration for limited spots.
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Brief Courses - Self-paced courses covering the core findings from relationship science (e.g., attachment, communication patterns, conflict resolution, and long-term compatibility) with practical exercises built in. Designed for anyone who wants to understand their relationship more clearly and build something more intentional.
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(Coming Soon...Get early access below.)
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Group Program: A small-group experience for people who want the research plus real conversation and community. We work through the science together, apply it to your specific situation, and you get the kind of honest, informed perspective that's hard to find anywhere else.
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(Limited spots...Waitlist only.)
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1-on-1 Consulting: For those who want focused, personalized guidance. We'll dig into your specific relationship dynamics, identify what the research says is actually going on, and build a clear, realistic path forward.
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(By application...Waitlist open now.)
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How It Works
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Start with the waitlist. When I launch, I'll share full details and give waitlist members first access and the best pricing. I'll also occasionally send notes on what I'm building and why, so by the time the doors open, you'll know exactly whether it's right for you.
No spam. Just early access and occasional updates on what's coming.
What Clients Have Achieved
Here's what I know after 25 years of research and four years of working with real people: most relationship problems aren't mysteries. They're patterns — and patterns, once identified, can change. The people I work with don't leave with more information. They leave with a fundamentally different understanding of what's been happening and what to do about it.
Ready to Find Out What's Actually Going On?
Here's what I know after 25 years of research and four years of working with real people: most relationship problems aren't mysteries. They're patterns, and patterns, once identified, can change.
What I'm building is a small, focused consulting practice for people who want to understand those patterns clearly and do something about them. Not vague encouragement. Not generic advice. The actual science, applied to your actual situation.
Space will be limited. Waitlist members get first access, best pricing, and first consideration.
Tell me a little about where you are. I read every response.