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Table of Contents


Ch1:  What If Everything You Know About Relationships Is Wrong?

Ch2:  “Men and Women Are Just Different” 

Ch3:  “True Love Should Be Perfect and Effortless”

Ch4:  “I Can’t Be Attracted to Someone Who Isn’t Gorgeous and Successful”

Ch5:  “If We’re Not Having a Lot of Sex, We’re Not in Love”

Ch6:  “If You Loved Me, You’d Change” 

Ch7:  “It’s Wrong to Be Selfish in a Relationship”

Ch8:  “We Need to Be Closer”

Ch9:  “The Less We Argue, the Better”

Ch10: “I Need You to Always Be There for Me”

Ch11: “If We Break Up, I’ll Be Broken”



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Audiobook Excerpt (Read by Mike Lenz)

"I really enjoyed reading Stronger Than you Think. It offers science-based advice on the key relationship issues that worry most of us. It should be on every bookshelf."

John Gottman, author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Praise for Stronger Than You Think

"I really enjoyed reading Stronger Than You Think. It offers science-based advice on the key relationship issues that worry most of us.

It should be on every bookshelf."

John Gottman, PhD, author of

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

“Scientists have been exposing humanity’s blind spots for centuries. In Stronger Than You Think, Gary Lewandowski leverages the tools of science to reveal our blind spots about love, offering an essential roadmap for cultivating an exquisite relationship.”

Eli J. Finkel, PhD, author of The All-or-Nothing Marriage

Stronger Than You Think identifies the common blind spots that mold and sabotage your love relationship, and then helps you fix them—all backed by science and good research! After reading this book, you’ll become more knowledgeable, prepared, confident, and perceptive about your own relationship.”

Terri Orbuch, PhD, author of

5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great

Stronger Than You Think is a captivating, intelligent book that shows you how to strengthen your relationships and steer clear of common pitfalls. Dr. Lewandowski translates his vast knowledge of relationship research into clear, relevant advice that will leave you feeling enlightened and more confident about how to navigate the complexities of romantic love.”

Ty Tashiro, PhD, author of The Science of Happily Ever After

“Whether you’re already in a relationship or looking for one, Stronger Than You Think is a must-read. Lewandowski masterfully distills the science of relationships in an informative and engaging fashion that will change everything you thought you knew about love and set you on the path to long-term happiness and success.”

Justin Lehmiller, PhD, research fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of     Tell Me What You Want

Science of Relationships Book

If you could ask any question about relationships, marriage, family, or parenting, what would you ask?

The Science of Relationships, answers 40 of the most common questions people have about dating, marriage and family. The key difference between this book and the other relationship books on the market is that all of our contributors are relationship scientists and teachers at colleges/universities who are true experts on relationships. We take that expertise, add in a little research, and present things in an easy to read format on your Kindle (or other device of choice).  


Example Questions:

  • What makes someone hot, and others not?

  • What’s the best way to meet someone?

  • Should I live with my partner before we get married?

  • Why do people cheat in relationships?

  • Is there a best way to discipline my kids? 

"Because the important things in life deserve data."

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Interpersonal Relationships and the Self

Published in 2020

This volume provides an overview of the theoretical and empirical work on relationship-induced self-concept change that has occurred over the last 10-15 years. The chapters in this volume discuss the foundations of relationship self-change, how and when it occurs, how it influences relationship decisions and behavior, and how it informs and modifies subsequent knowledge structures, all examined over the course of the relationship cycle (i.e., initiation, maintenance, and dissolution). Additionally, this volume identifies novel applications and extensions of the relationship self-change literature, including applications to health and behavior, intergroup relations, and the workplace. 

Among the topics discussed:

  • Self-disclosure in the acquaintance process

  • Commitment readiness

  • Bolstering attachment security through close relationships

  • Self-concept clarity and self-change

  • The role of social support in promoting self-development

  • Relationship dissolution and self-concept change

  • Intergroup and sociocultural factors of self-expansion

  • Self-concept change at work

  • Measurement of relationship-induced self-concept change


Interpersonal Relationships and the Self-Concept serves both as a comprehensive overview of the existing empirical research as well as a roadmap for future research on self-change, including a discussion of emerging theoretical frameworks. It will interest researchers focusing on romantic relationships, self and identity, and the intersection of self and relationships, spanning the disciplines of psychology, sociology, communication, and family studies.

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